Navigating Divorce for the Best Result
Some divorces are amicable and quick. Others are painful and drawn out.
Either way, divorce represents a significant life change, and support is important. Family and friends can be a huge help, acting as sounding boards, babysitters, temporary homes, and shoulders to cry on. However, they are only half of the equation when it comes to getting through a divorce.
Even the most straightforward divorce can feel like a maze. It can be all too easy to make mistakes when there’s a much smarter route to the best results. The good news is, the whole team at Kelli J. Malcolm is here to provide both expert knowledge and support that enable you to get through what can be a very difficult time. Now, if you aren’t sure hiring a lawyer is worth it, you aren’t alone. Many people dive into the divorce process on their own, thinking they can handle the journey and save some money at the same time. All too often, they end up with disappointing results.
When you approach a divorce, it’s important to realize that you have a set of interests that are worth protecting. Why? Because the results of your divorce will likely have a profound impact on your future finances and wellbeing. In short, the way your interests are treated defines your future. Even if you think you have the knowledge and emotional stability to thoroughly protect and defend your interests, there are always unexpected obstacles, twists, and turns that can make it difficult to stay on track. That’s not to mention the sheer length of the process, which can take a serious toll.
Instead of pitting yourself against the divorce process alone, consider the following benefits a lawyer like Kelli J. Malcolm can bring.
Divorce provokes stress on multiple levels. Whether it’s irritating changes in daily routine due to the absence of your soon-to-be-ex or profound fears about child custody, you will often find yourself dealing with stressors at every turn. Handling legal work accurately and punctually on top of everything else can be next to impossible.
Managing divorce paperwork and legal proceedings is what we do every day at the Law Offices of Kelli J. Malcolm. That means we know which pitfalls to avoid and how best to defend your interests, ultimately speeding everything up.
As we said above, our team works in the legal world of divorce. It’s what we study, practice, and explore every day. We know Colorado’s divorce laws inside and out, which empowers us to handle divorces whether they are complex or simple. Whether you’re contending with debts, assets, child support, or a combination of complexities, our professional expertise and passion for protecting your interests are simply advantages you cannot go without.
Transparent and Binding Results
If you fill out/create divorce documents on your own, the court will review them. However, unless you have a professional understanding of effective legal language, the court may not understand what you’re trying to do. This is how you’ll end up with a divorce decree that doesn’t state your wishes.
Instead, let us provide transparent, error-free language composed to support your unique interests. That way, you won’t end up with an agreement that makes your life difficult or is impossible to enforce.
If you’re the one filing for divorce, it can feel like the court system can never move fast enough. However, even if you do your homework and file all the paperwork correctly, it is common to encounter problems providing sufficient information and proper forms. Incorrect paperwork and missing information cause ruling delays in court and can push the ruling way back. An attorney’s expertise can keep things moving and in the right direction.
Elimination of Mistakes
DIY divorces run into trouble for two reasons: the pain and stress of divorce make it challenging to think clearly and the legal system is complex. All it takes is forgetting to address one little issue, and you can end up with a significant legal mistake on your hand. The smoothest divorces are handled correctly the first time through, and such good results are next to impossible without professional knowledge and support. Let our team help you avoid costly mistakes and get you moving on with your life.
Whether you’re facing your first divorce or you’ve gone through a divorce before, it can be a very challenging time. Navigating the ups, downs, ins, and outs of the legal, relational, and emotional process (while trying to keep the rest of your life afloat) can be a formidable challenge. At the Law Offices of Kelli J. Malcolm, we’ve gained an understanding of what people go through during a divorce. Here is what you may experience if you’re headed for divorce yourself.
Be ready for the idiosyncrasies of the court system.
The courtrooms you see on television are created for entertainment, not reality. The real court system tends to be slow-paced, complex, and not designed to provide revenge. All too often, a win in the courtroom comes at a high cost: conflict-filled divorces can devastate you emotionally and financially, greatly lessening your chances of attracting a healthier mate (should you want to). Let the team at the Law Office of Kelli J. Malcolm help you navigate the legal side of divorce. We’ll bring all of our expertise to the table, compassionately and determinedly protecting your interests.
Anticipate needing support.
Friends and relatives can make a huge difference when you’re going through a divorce. However, keep in mind that their support will be largely emotion-based and may not stand the test of time. Remember that they are not legal experts and combine their love with professional legal advice from our team. That way, you’ll get through the process faster and with (hopefully) less emotional pain.
Expect time to pass differently.
It is very rare for two people to agree to divorce at the same time. Instead, it’s usually one partner that makes the decision, leaving the other to try to catch up. In this case, the one who prompted the divorce will feel like time moves at a crawl, while the one who wasn’t expecting it will feel like time is moving very quickly.
Understand you will probably feel like you’re at a disadvantage.
It is common for both spouses to feel like they’re at a disadvantage when it comes to divorce. That is part of why divorces can get so ugly. Spouses driving divorces usually go crazy with the slowness of the courts, feeling like their soon-to-be-exes are sabotaging the process to make it even slower. Meanwhile, the soon-to-be-exes are just dealing with shock while feeling left behind and caught off-guard. Again, this is where the level head of a legal expert can make all the difference in preventing you from getting caught in the weeds.
Prepare for some things to change and others to stay the same.
A divorce will change your standard of living and your social network, but if you have anything that creates an ongoing connection with your ex (the most common connection is children), you can expect to experience the issues and negativity that drove you to break your marriage in the first place. Basically, divorce is not an ultimate solution. However, it can be an essential first step to the life you want.
Don’t be surprised if you feel a sense of failure.
While deciding to get a divorce may be one of the best decisions you make, don’t be surprised if you feel a lot of dismay. It is common for people to grieve for “wasted” years and struggle with a deep feeling of loss concerning their self-control, connection, clarity, and identity. Unfortunately, this inevitable pain causes a knee-jerk reaction for people that has them using their children as weapons. Instead of causing deeper damage, turn to healthy social interactions, exercise, meditation, and counseling to work through the pain in a safe way.
Expect difficulty hiding dislike for your soon-to-be-ex.
While some divorces are amicable, it’s much more common for both spouses to dislike the other. However, it is absolutely essential that you use your self control and find ways to process your frustration and resentment. Again, counseling can be a powerful solution, preventing you from getting stuck in a bitter, angry life. It can also prevent you from spreading ugly emotions to your children and making the damage worse for them.
Anticipate your children will feel and show the impact of your divorce.
It doesn’t matter how old your children are; divorce is going to have a profound impact on them. Keep in mind that the degree and duration of conflict before, during, and after divorce will all play important roles in how your children handle your separation. While you won’t be able to protect your children from the whole impact, you can do a lot by turning to counselors and professional support instead of taking it out on your kids.
Understand you will make mistakes.
While getting through a divorce can be difficult enough, looking at the prospect of life on your own can be stressful and frightening, especially if you have children. Just the idea of getting back into the dating game can seem impossible, and once you start, you may feel like you’re in a confusing form of second adolescence. However, you don’t have to be perfect. Identify the valuable information you can take away from your mistakes and move on with your life as a stronger person.
We understand that a divorce is a significant event, and most people want it to be over before it even begins. However, doing it correctly is key to the success of the rest of your life. We are here to handle the legal side with compassion and excellence. When you think about the legal side of your divorce, we want you to feel a flash of relief in the fact that we have it covered and you don’t have to worry about it yourself. Turn to the team small enough to care about you as a person and tough enough to defend your interests all the way through. Contact us in the greater Denver area today!